28th February 2025 - You pay Me to tell you what to do
An insight into paid D/s dynamics.
D/s, Domination & submission, Power Exchange, Authority Transfer. I’m sure there will be some other names for it. A dynamic between two people, where one is in charge and makes decisions and the other does as they are told.
Sounds simple, right? Well it isn’t. When you take ‘life’ into account. The definition of the relationship is really important. Who is in charge? Is that person in charge ALL THE TIME (24/7) or only some of the time. If they are only in charge SOME of the time, then are they REALLY in charge? If the person who hands the control over can bail out of a situation at anytime by negotiation and using a safeword, surely they are the one with the power?
A can of worms and everyone will have their own perfectly reasonable and valid response to it. It really is up to you as the people in this type of relationship to define what is looks like, when it happens and how it evolves. It takes patience, understanding nuances, trust (which is built over time and allows for going ‘deeper’ into a dynamic) and IMPECCABLE COMMUNICATION SKILLS ON BOTH SIDES.
Since joining the kink community in 2017 (meaning when I started going to events and meeting people in real life). This has been what I have been drawn to most. So it made sense that when I started to integrate fitness into My life that Fitness Domme, My brand was born.
One of My submissives at the time had not performed a task and the video he sent Me of him doing his 100 sit ups to atone for his oversight really turned Me on.
Fast forward to 2025 and here I am with My fitness programmes, Yoga classes and personal submissives getting healthier and fitter for Me. This is so much fun! I really enjoy what I do.
Returning to the title of this blog, you pay Me to tell you what to do. I have had a number of people ask Me, ‘how does it work?’ ‘what will You do to me if I don’t perform my tasks/achieve my goals?’ I tend to respond to these types of questions with a link to My website or a direction to read one of My professional profiles (I am all over the internet) as the ethos around it all is summarised in My Mantra: Your fitness is a manifestation of your desire to please Me.
You pay Me to tell you what to do.
You pay Me to tell you what to do.
Your part of the bargain is to do as you are told.
My job is to ensure you are being kept on track to achieve the goals I set for you and to keep you accountable.
Your job is to stay on that track and to report to Me if anything becomes a problem.
Reporting to Me if you feel a limit has been reached needs to be done respectfully and with reverence, as with all communication.
I don’t force, I don’t shout and scream, if anything My softly spoken demeanour can come across as kind (some people interpret this as weak and then test limits). Be warned, I will NOT push back and be mean, I will simply walk away and let you find a Dominant that will behave the way that would suit you better.
I don’t care if I eat beans on toast all month because I lost your business. I have many different income streams and enjoy all of them.
Just remember that you pay Me to tell you what to do, to keep you accountable and I give you My time energy if I enjoy sharing it with you.
Therein lies My power.
Louise Payn - Fitness Domme
An insight into paid D/s dynamics.
D/s, Domination & submission, Power Exchange, Authority Transfer. I’m sure there will be some other names for it. A dynamic between two people, where one is in charge and makes decisions and the other does as they are told.
Sounds simple, right? Well it isn’t. When you take ‘life’ into account. The definition of the relationship is really important. Who is in charge? Is that person in charge ALL THE TIME (24/7) or only some of the time. If they are only in charge SOME of the time, then are they REALLY in charge? If the person who hands the control over can bail out of a situation at anytime by negotiation and using a safeword, surely they are the one with the power?
A can of worms and everyone will have their own perfectly reasonable and valid response to it. It really is up to you as the people in this type of relationship to define what is looks like, when it happens and how it evolves. It takes patience, understanding nuances, trust (which is built over time and allows for going ‘deeper’ into a dynamic) and IMPECCABLE COMMUNICATION SKILLS ON BOTH SIDES.
Since joining the kink community in 2017 (meaning when I started going to events and meeting people in real life). This has been what I have been drawn to most. So it made sense that when I started to integrate fitness into My life that Fitness Domme, My brand was born.
One of My submissives at the time had not performed a task and the video he sent Me of him doing his 100 sit ups to atone for his oversight really turned Me on.
Fast forward to 2025 and here I am with My fitness programmes, Yoga classes and personal submissives getting healthier and fitter for Me. This is so much fun! I really enjoy what I do.
Returning to the title of this blog, you pay Me to tell you what to do. I have had a number of people ask Me, ‘how does it work?’ ‘what will You do to me if I don’t perform my tasks/achieve my goals?’ I tend to respond to these types of questions with a link to My website or a direction to read one of My professional profiles (I am all over the internet) as the ethos around it all is summarised in My Mantra: Your fitness is a manifestation of your desire to please Me.
You pay Me to tell you what to do.
- You DO NOT pay Me to second-guess if you have actually done what you say you have done (most of My training is remote).
- You DO NOT pay Me to have arguments with you over whether a punishment is suitable or not (see My limits, arguments is on that list). I get My fitness submissives to state their preferred punishments and rewards and issue from these lists.
- You DO NOT pay me to do something that Google can do. If I tell you to have a savoury breakfast and you come back saying you don’t know what that looks like, then you are wasting your money on My time while we brainstorm savoury breakfasts, time that I would prefer to spend either watching you masturbate for Me as a reward or watch you working out for Me.
- You DO NOT pay Me to design a programme that you then adapt as you see fit. I will always start with low intensity workouts and monitor as I go and adapt accordingly.
You pay Me to tell you what to do.
Your part of the bargain is to do as you are told.
My job is to ensure you are being kept on track to achieve the goals I set for you and to keep you accountable.
Your job is to stay on that track and to report to Me if anything becomes a problem.
Reporting to Me if you feel a limit has been reached needs to be done respectfully and with reverence, as with all communication.
I don’t force, I don’t shout and scream, if anything My softly spoken demeanour can come across as kind (some people interpret this as weak and then test limits). Be warned, I will NOT push back and be mean, I will simply walk away and let you find a Dominant that will behave the way that would suit you better.
I don’t care if I eat beans on toast all month because I lost your business. I have many different income streams and enjoy all of them.
Just remember that you pay Me to tell you what to do, to keep you accountable and I give you My time energy if I enjoy sharing it with you.
Therein lies My power.
Louise Payn - Fitness Domme
19th February 2025
It is a very exciting time here at the Naughty Corner. I have My own little home studio, where I do My own training. I train in person clients and I also teach My online classes from. Tuesday evenings at 7pm I teach Kinky Yoga.
Also, My calendar is filling up for summer of 2025 with the following events coming up:
Louise Payn - Fitness Domme
It is a very exciting time here at the Naughty Corner. I have My own little home studio, where I do My own training. I train in person clients and I also teach My online classes from. Tuesday evenings at 7pm I teach Kinky Yoga.
Also, My calendar is filling up for summer of 2025 with the following events coming up:
- 21st February 2025 - Gynarchy Gathering in Sandy
- 22nd February 2025 - The Cruel Huntress Winter Play Party in East London
- 1st March 2025 - Bossy Paw in London
- 16th March 2025 - Yoga for Dommes in Bedfordshire
- 22nd March 2025 - FemDom South presents: Ms Xena's School of Corrections
- 6th April 2025 - Yoga for Submissives at Atanomie Studio in London
- 16th April 2025 - Yoga for Dommes in Bedfordshire
- 23rd May 2025 - Camp of Command in the south
- 23rd July 2025 - Kinky Kamping (secret location)
Louise Payn - Fitness Domme
7th June 2020 Lockdown continues and so does the exercise regime...
I will not be doing any in-person sessions for the foreseeable future. I am currently working with my kinky fitness clients via video call, making sure they are keeping their bodies healthy and having a bit of kinky fun at the same time. Yesterday I had the pleasure of seeing one of my clients exercising in a leopard print underwear set and the day before, my client's (the force of nature that is PussyWillow's) pretty breasts kept on popping out of her top when she was doing yoga poses for me. If you'd like to see her pretty breasts, take a look at her OnlyFans. For all of those lucky men who have wrestled with her.. beware, I am making her stronger with my lockdown fitness regime.
I've been very busy creating content, beefing up my OnlyFans library for you all to enjoy. Take a look at my teasers on YouTube. I also have a public and a private gallery on AdultWork, if you would like to take a look at some more explicit images of me, as well as some of my written erotica. You can also find me on Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife (please note that I keep my FetLife friends to people I have met in person). I am also working on a short, taster training course for anyone who is curious about Kinky Fitness, watch this space!
You may know that I love rope.. I attended a zoom class with the Oxford Rope Bight last weekend and was delighted to have been drawn by Isobel Williams.
If you want to talk to me on a one to one basis on the phone (naughty chat, or to exercise for me, or just to talk about your kinks and fetishes with someone who is non-judgemental), call me on DommeLine on 09842 63 62 61 EXT 138 (Calls cost £2.00 per minute plus access charge. Callers must be 18 or over and have the bill payer's permission. All calls are recorded)
Louise Payn - Fitness Domme
I will not be doing any in-person sessions for the foreseeable future. I am currently working with my kinky fitness clients via video call, making sure they are keeping their bodies healthy and having a bit of kinky fun at the same time. Yesterday I had the pleasure of seeing one of my clients exercising in a leopard print underwear set and the day before, my client's (the force of nature that is PussyWillow's) pretty breasts kept on popping out of her top when she was doing yoga poses for me. If you'd like to see her pretty breasts, take a look at her OnlyFans. For all of those lucky men who have wrestled with her.. beware, I am making her stronger with my lockdown fitness regime.
I've been very busy creating content, beefing up my OnlyFans library for you all to enjoy. Take a look at my teasers on YouTube. I also have a public and a private gallery on AdultWork, if you would like to take a look at some more explicit images of me, as well as some of my written erotica. You can also find me on Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife (please note that I keep my FetLife friends to people I have met in person). I am also working on a short, taster training course for anyone who is curious about Kinky Fitness, watch this space!
You may know that I love rope.. I attended a zoom class with the Oxford Rope Bight last weekend and was delighted to have been drawn by Isobel Williams.
If you want to talk to me on a one to one basis on the phone (naughty chat, or to exercise for me, or just to talk about your kinks and fetishes with someone who is non-judgemental), call me on DommeLine on 09842 63 62 61 EXT 138 (Calls cost £2.00 per minute plus access charge. Callers must be 18 or over and have the bill payer's permission. All calls are recorded)
Louise Payn - Fitness Domme
